SuperMom On The Fly

Am I a sex addict? By definition, a sex addict is an individual who is unable to manage their sexual behavior. The Wikipedia article will give more detail than I’m interested in giving here.

Because this article is about me.

Am I a sex addict? Or am I just a person who LOVES sex?

I manage my behavior. I go to work every day. I take care of my family. My children are fed, dressed well, bathed daily, and excel in school and activities. I pay my bills. I pay Uncle Sam.

So….? Do I need therapy? Would therapy make me less preoccupied with sex? Would this make me want to spend time writing the great American novel or planting perennials instead of watching interracial porn?

Maybe. But I doubt it.

I want to quit calling my “problem” a problem. Enjoying healthy sex is not a problem unless it hurts someone. Loving the attention of women or men is not a problem unless it hurts someone.  

I’ve sat on a therapists couch a couple of times in my life and if anything it seemed to make any problems worse. Rather than fix them, it made me focus more on them!  I felt better by getting up and finding healthy solutions or safe outlets.

I find it more useful to identify the issue of concern and work with it. It’s sort of like….I’ve got this elephant in my yard and I can’t get rid of the elephant…..so I do things to learn to live with the elephant.

I crave sex like a drug. This is no secret. I want to enjoy several orgasms every day. It’s one of the most important things in my life. And I’m really ok with that.

The way I’ve handled it is to just sort of work with it. I don’t think I can fix this and prefer to focus my energy into things that are important. I think sex was too deeply ingrained in me at a young age. I’ve done well with finding healthy outlets for it. Like the swing lifestyle. Porn. Vibrators.

If I am honest, and hurt no one, what is wrong with that? I live a productive life. If I want to cum 5 times a day, who does this hurt? Why would I want to fix this? If it were causing problems in my life, I would work on this. I’m a proactive person.

So….am I a sex addict? I’m saying NO.

Tags: Orgasms, Sex, Sex Addict, Therapy

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